Light Celebrating in Complexity

Light Celebrating in Complexity

​The holiday season can have us reliving past heartache, wishing for things we don’t have, and missing those we’ve lost.

Listen to your heart, what fills it?

How can you bring a sense of care to yourself and others?
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We can see the outside appearance of someone as we walk by them in the hallway at work or as we scroll to see their smiles on social media. To each other we can sometimes view each other as pieces of perfection.

Today with this post my only wish is to acknowledge that many of us are faced with complexity as we guide ourself through celebrating the holiday season

For some of us it could be the loss of a loved one, a divorce or breakup, financial concerns or being far away from loved ones (and the list goes on). This could be you or someone close to you.

My healing from my parents divorce and my own from eight years ago has evolved. My parents got divorced when I was six and it started me on the path of various holiday traditions based on my parents availability or lack there of. Much of it was hard to understand as a child. I would never wish divorce on anyone, however, my own divorce taught me so much about the importance of putting the child’s needs before my own.

​Even if I struggled with the loss of not having my son with me through parts of the holiday season it was important not to deny my ex husband the time he deserves with his son. It takes time to build new traditions in divorce life and it probably will not look the same each year. I’ve learned that the happiness of my son and my ex makes it better for all of us all around, giving my son even more people to love him. Even in the seriousness of divorce and the complexity that comes celebrating the holiday season it helps to find humor in the situation.

If you or someone close to you is currently celebrating in the complexity how about sharing a laugh, a tear and some good old humor filled with love.

​To be a light celebrating in complexity this holiday season...

1. Acknowledge the reality that life is complex.

​2. Give into tears and laughter this season.

3. Listen to your heart and give yourself a break.

4. Understand that others have their on challenges celebrating complexity.

5. Share a hug, it might just make you and someone else feel a bit better.

6. Be gentle with your words and intentional with your actions.

7. See the light in a child’s eyes and have it remind you that we are all children needing love and light, don’t deny a child what they need.

​Open your eyes and heart, shine your light in the complexity. Listen with intent, the answer lies within you. Give your light permission to celebrate in the complexity.

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You've got the future on your side
Your gonna be fine now
I know whatever you decide
You're gonna shine”
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- Dream Theater