“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.” –Buddha
As many of us prepare to go back to school face to face or remote there will continue to be a need for flexibility, grace and care. We will face challenges personally and professionally so how do we plan with our friends, families, students and colleagues with wellbeing in mind.
Many of us are waking up every morning to reach deep down to find that little bit of light.
Self-care helps us care for others. The days we ignore our own wellbeing only weakens our ability to care for others.
We can ask ourselves what part of our personal wellbeing is needing more attention - is it financial, spiritual, physical, social, mental. We can Identify areas to focus on for the day. It can be overwhelming focusing on all at the same time.
Right now we can lean into having faith and giving grace. With the world in a whirlwind we keep spinning the wheels and trying to live in the present wisely. There are days we will fall and scrape our knees and mourn for the past and worry about the future then we will get back up and get back to the present.
May we step back in and be presented with today - a gift to do better and be better, to have faith and give a little grace.
With much love and light, be well my friends,
"A democracy cannot thrive where power remains unchecked and justice is reserved for a select few. Ignoring these cries and failing to respond to this movement is simply not an option — for peace cannot exist where justice is not served." - John Lewis
I am excited to share light with all of you this week from a dear friend, colleague, and fellow researcher, Dr. Augustus Hallmon. Dr. Hallmon or Dr. Gus as his students like to call him is an Assistant Professor at Northwest Missouri State University.
Today, Gus shares with us insights about the importance of research regarding racial injustices and the implications of practice for recreation entities.
Happy Friendly Light Friday!
With love, light and wellbeing,
Sharing Light with Dr. Hallmon
Dr. Hallmon is actively engaged in the Illinois Parks and Recreation Association. He recently presented on a panel for a series called Conversation Circle: Diversity, Equity and Inclusion. The resource list provided below is a collection Dr. Hallmon and a few of his colleagues gathered to share with attendees.
Dr. Hallmon will he part of a second Conversation Circle next Tuesday, July 28, its free and you can sign up by clicking here.
What is Juneteenth, How Is It Celebrated, and Why Does It Matter?from Teen Vogue
Juneteenth: Explaining an Unsung Holiday from Ebony
What is Juneteenth? from History
Teach Juneteenth from Teaching Tolerance
Q & A – Confederate Flag, Monuments, and Statues by AP U.S. History Teacher Jim Golden
White Allyship 101 by Dismantle Collective
Red Table Talk by Jada Pinkett Smith, Daughter Willow, and Mother Gammy
The 1619 Project by New York Times Magazine
Black Organizations You Can Donate to for Protest Efforts by Blavity
11 Facts About Racial Discrimination by DoSomething
Racism in the United States by Wikipedia
A Letter to Roy by Scott Lloyd
A Black Mother’s Recreational Choices for Her Children by Dr. Augustus Hallmon
Racism Is Terrible. Blackness Is Not. from The Atlantic
11 Anti-Racists Accounts That Are Worth Following from Variety
Anti-Racism Resources from Healthline
Unlearning Racism: Resources for Teaching Anti-Racism by ThoughtCo
13th (Netflix Original)
Eyes on the Prize (PBS)
Black Panther Movement
When They See Us (Netflix)
The Color of Fear
I’m Not Racist Am I?
11 Shows & Documentaries About Racial Justice & Police Brutalityby TV Guide
White Lies We Tell Our Children
The Enduring Myth of Black Criminality
How to Have a Voice and Lean Into Conversations on Race
The Future of Race in America (YouTube)
A Conversation with Black Women on Race
A Conversation with White People about Race
How Race Settled the Suburbs
Equity vs Equality
Becoming Upended: Teaching and Learning about Race and Racism by NAEYC
Tears We Cannot Stop by Michael Eric Dyson
White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo
The Anti-Racist Reading List by Elle
How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America, Ibram X. Kendi
Courageous Conversations About Race: A Field Guide Equity in Schools, Glenn Singleton
White Privilege: Essential Readings on the Other Side of Racism, Paula Rothenberg
Woke Church: An Urgent Call for Christians in America to Confront Racism and Injustice, Eric Mason
Privilege: Power and Difference, Allan Johnson
Privilege: A Reader, Michael Kimmel & Abby Ferber
Raising Race Questions, Ali Michael
The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness, Michelle Alexander
Just Mercy, Bryan Stevenson
America’s Original Sin: Racism, White Privilege, and the Bridge to a New America, Jim Wallis
Slavery By Another Name, Douglas Blackmon
When Affirmative Action Was White, Ira Katznelson
So You Want to Talk About Race, Ijeoma Oluo
The Color of Law: The Forgotten Story of How Government Segregated America, Richard Rothstein
White Awake: An Honest Look at What it Means to be White, Daniel Hill
Empire of Cotton: A Global History, Sven Beckert
Slavery’s Capitalism: A New History of American Economic Development, Sven Beckert and Seth Rockman
The Business of Slavery and the Rise of American Capitalism, Calvin Schermerhorn
My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem
A Kids Book About Racism by Jelani Memory
A Book To Teach White Children How to Undo Racism by Charis Books & More
Excellent Diverse Books for Children by Embrace Race
30 Children’s Books About Diversity That Celebrate Our Differences
All are Welcome: Alexandra Penfold and Suzanne Kaufman
Hair Love: Mathew A. Cherry and Vashti Harrison
Dream Big Little One: Vashti Harrison
I Love My Hair: Natasha Anastasia Tarpley and EB Lewis
Last Stop on Market Street: Matt de la Pena and Christian Robinson
I Am Enough: Grace Byers and Keturah A Bobo
The Big Umbrella: Amy June Bates and Juniper Bates
Music & Podcasts
Songs Giving Us Life by National Public Radio: Code Switch
The Very Best of Code Switch in 8 Episodes by National Public Radio
1619 Podcast by New York Times
Nothing can dim the light, which shines from within. - Maya Angelou
I am excited to share light with all of you this week from a dear friend and colleague Seneca Wilson. He is a poet and the Associate Director of Facilities and Guest Services at the University of Alabama, Birmingham. Seneca is author of "Stairs to the Top" and has a motivational series titled, "Turn on your Light."
Today, Seneca shares with us insights about his passion for poetry and the significance of light. Seneca's spoken word is a teller of the darkness and light that we see in our society today as we challenge systems of racism in our world. Today we will hear how his words from only a few years ago still relate to today. Only shedding more light on the importance of the work that needs to be done to rid society of racial injustices.
Links to Seneca's poems shared today are provided following the sharer of light interview.
Find a friend and share Seneca's light with others.
Blessings on this Friendly Light Friday.
With love, light and wellbeing,
Dr. William Wasson
Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.
Racism is a system not an event.
BLACK LIVES MATTER.
White people it’s time to be responsive and hold ourselves accountable to the work.
We must ask ourselves how are we listening and learning from black narratives?
How will we listen and learn and use our own voices in our spheres of influence?
How will we hold ourselves accountable to educate ourselves about the systems in place in our country that continuously exude social injustices?
White people our learning journey will never end and it shouldn’t. White people we have a responsibility to do the work. Sustained focus and study is imperative to inform dialogue about racism and action for change.
White people we have a personal responsibility to listen, learn and lead through action.
Be responsible for where you are on this journey, step out of your white comfort, and start the work now.
Merriam-Webster's first definition of racism is “a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race.”
The definition of racism is getting updated in Merriam Webster dictionary. Kennedy Mitchum who contacted staff at the organization stated the need for an updated definition.
"I kept having to tell them that definition is not representative of what is actually happening in the world," she told CNN. "The way that racism occurs in real life is not just prejudice it's the systemic racism that is happening for a lot of black Americans."
Many people will dismiss any conversations about systemic racism by stating they don’t feel that way about people of color.
As a white woman, I am working through my own journey to listen, learn and lead through action.
Everyday I learn that I need to learn more and once I know what I know, I better do better.
One area I have learned more about during listening sessions with black and white colleagues over the past two weeks is white fragility. Robin DiAngelo who is a sociologist wrote the book White Fragility: Why it’s so Hard for White People to talk about Racism.
I believe I am a well-intended white person who is open-minded yet cannot answer the question DiAngelo asks, “What does it mean to be white?” The well-intended white person can still create harm by falling into white comfort.
What is white fragility?
DiAngelo shares in Teaching Tolerance,
“ Well, when I coined that term, the fragility part was meant to capture how little it takes to upset white people racially. For a lot of white people, the mere suggestion that being white has meaning will cause great umbrage. Certainly generalizing about white people will. Right now, me saying “white people,” as if our race had meaning, and as if I could know anything about somebody just because they’re white, will cause a lot of white people to erupt in defensiveness. And I think of it as a kind of weaponized defensiveness. Weaponized tears. Weaponized hurt feelings. And in that way, I think white fragility actually functions as a kind of white racial bullying.
We white people make it so difficult for people of color to talk to us about our inevitable—but often unaware—racist patterns and assumptions that, most of the time, they don’t. People of color working and living in primarily white environments take home way more daily indignities and slights and microaggressions than they bother talking to us about because their experience consistently is that it’s not going to go well. In fact, they’re going to risk more punishment, not less. They’re going to now have to take care of the white person’s upset feelings. They’re going to be seen as a troublemaker. The white person is going to withdraw, defend, explain, insist it had to have been a misunderstanding.”
There is much to be done and the work will continue, however, we would be ignorant and negligent to state that nothing will ever change and that this is not a systemic problem in our society.
As a privileged white woman, I am committed to the work.
Listen, learn and lead through action.
BLACK LIVES MATTER!
Change how you understand what it means to be racist, and then act on that understanding. Because if you change your understanding, but you don’t do anything different, then you’re colluding.
“Your soul is the power and core of who you are. Feed it well.” Anonymous
As I think about all of my students who will be graduating today, my hope is each student feels fulfilled by what is feeding their soul.
“Personal fulfillment is the continual journey of self-discovery and contentment with your position in life.” - Kyle Seagraves
As we faced challenging times due to a pause in our normal school year, it may feel that we did not achieve all that we had hoped to, or did we?
Would if we choose to look through the lens of how we are fulfilled versus what we have missed or what we have accomplished?
Our light might actually be more full than we think. Maybe it is more about finding out who we are and how we are connected to the world.
We tend to know what we need and typically when we know what we need – we go find it! In the case of students it might be graduation, a new job, an internship, you name it.
Our students are currently in a state of expressing resiliency during an unprecedented time - a time in history when graduation might not look the same, awkward video conferencing, postponement of internships, or the dwindling job market.
What happens between all the feelings of missing out or receiving achievements?
What about the moments in life that truly fulfill us?
Some happen quickly and we are fed well and are satisfied. Other times may seem slow and it may feel like progress isn’t taking place for a long period of time.
Is it the achievement that truly nourishes our soul or what we learn about ourself during the journey and how we connect with others in between the achievement?
I can remember my graduation day at Elon College (University now – I was part of the last class to graduate Elon College). In the fall of 1998 I transferred to Elon to study leisure sport management after graduating from Germanna Community College in Virginia. I spent two and half years at Elon taking courses and the spring of 2001 I left campus to serve as a campus recreation intern at UNC Asheville. I was away from campus the majority of that spring before graduation. While I was away in Asheville there were times when I felt as though I was missing out on something. I wasn’t involved in my student organization any longer, friends were at parties without me and I wasn’t going to campus events.
During that time I was feeding my soul I was learning and building new connections for what I love helping others and giving back - that fulfills my light. And nineteen years later I can say the same thing still feeds my soul, helping others and giving back.
Full circle, I am in my eighth year as a faculty member at Elon University (formerly known as Elon College.) Starting June 1, I will begin to serve as Department Chair for Sport Management (the academic program that I graduated from in 2001). I am excited for the opportunity to serve and even more excited for how the role will give me time to feed my soul by helping others and giving back.
From my time as a graduating senior
to now as a faculty member, I continue to learn more about what feeds my soul and what drains my soul. It is not all the accolades, awards, opportunities that I receive. It is what happens in between receiving any acknowledgement where the true fulfillment happens.
Students, some years (days) you will be moving fast like the hare and other years (days) you will feel as though you are traveling like the turtle. Enjoy right where you find yourself.
I can remember in my early twenties I would focus so much on what I wasn’t accomplishing or thought I was getting behind instead of sometimes enjoy where I was in the moment.
To all the graduating seniors out there, you know what you need so go for it and remember sometimes it’s not about how fast you get there...keep moving and be in the moment.
Ask yourself, what feeds my soul? Go get more of that, feed your light what it needs.
Give your light the fulfillment it deserves.
As we sit on the sidelines how do we sit here not...
going back to school
finding a job
watching a live sporting event
eading but constantly watching the news
celebrating a wedding with family and friends
participating in camp
seeing smiling faces again at the gym
detoxifying from social media
hugging friends and family
gathering with loved ones during a loss...
...the list goes on for what we wish to play as we sit and wait.
I have had moments in life where I have wanted to quit and give up playing the game, if it was school, relationships, work, and evening life, Over time I’ve gotten better about retying my shoelaces so I can get back to playing the game if it is the same game or a new one (or maybe putting myself in someone else’s shoes to better understand).
We are currently under pressure right now from all angles waiting with no specific answers for what tomorrow will be. Which can be overwhelming. I feel this in all aspects of my life as a parent, fiancé, friend, professor, colleague and the person you may or may not know. .
Daily discussing with family, students and colleagues about what tomorrow might bring as we all sit on the sidelines wondering when we will be back in the game and wondering how the new game will be played.
Times of sitting on the sideline typically starts with frustration because the thoughts of why am I not playing begin to swirl around in my head. And when I get asked to play again how will I perform.
Once we catch ourselves in the spiral, eventually we catch ourselves complaining and we sit and wonder why are we sitting here in the first place.
Maybe sitting on the sideline is our time to sit in the passion of our purpose to create ideas, be innovative and reflect on our dreams.
Sometimes it takes a while to dig ourselves out of the grief and frustration and focus on what truly matters.
Perhaps it is the time God is giving us to prepare us before we step onto the field to play right where we belong!
A precautioned light protects others from danger and harm.
Don't get me wrong, there will be times when one doesn’t protect another. However, once a mistake is made or a failure is incurred one should learn and lean into a precautioned state. It is a personal responsibility that impacts others.
It’s how we respond to mistakes and failures that will have us reflecting our precautioned light as we respond proactively to face the next challenge.
Many times we assume what is right or wrong and don’t take time to listen to others who are directly impacted. It is not until we are the ones facing the danger or challenge that our precautioned light begins to shine.
Would if we listened, learned and acted before it directly impacted us?
We are facing a pandemic, racism, violence...I could keep going.
in these times...
What questions am I asking of those who believe different than me?
Am I blaming and shaming others before trying to understand?
What have I learned from past challenges?
How do I take care in advance?
How do I prevent harm?
How do I take responsibility for my own choices and how it impacts others?
Initially I planned to make this post primarily about safety, earlier in the week I posted the following video.
As I walk this morning finishing my blog, my initial plan changed.
I am thankful that my son was wearing a helmet. I am thankful that he feels safe riding a bicycle in a neighborhood. I am saddened by the death of Ahmaud Arbery.
it’s easy to step back into the comfort of our white privilege. As I walk this morning for Ahmaud my heart is broken for my black friends, colleagues, and strangers.
Today is not a moment, it’s a MOVEMENT. I’ll say it again for those who didn’t hear me - It is to easy to step back into the comfort of our white privilege - Stay in the fight - shine your light- listen, read, learn, act.
The Cambridge Dictionary defines precaution as something that is done to try and protect a person or thing from something dangerous or harmful.
I think it is time for us to think about times we’ve made mistakes and failed and ask ourselves, “How did I listen?, What did I read, What did I learn?, How did I act?”
For us to take care of those closest to us as well as those who we don’t know, we must ask ourselves, “What am I doing to protect those closest to me and those that I don’t know from something that is dangerous and harmful?”
What is situational awareness and why should we pay attention?
Situational awareness is, “the concept and practice of being cognizant of specific factors about one’s surroundings and how they relate to the individual’s safety. In its most basic form, situational awareness is knowing what is going on around the individual: people, time of day, vehicles, and the potential threat that those elements pose. More advanced training of situational awareness is designed to enable people to anticipate threats and act accordingly” (Turner, 2019).
Whenever I first hear this term I think about my stepdad and training with him to study the art of Isshin-ryu. He instilled in me at the age of 14 the importance of being aware of my surroundings. Almost 30 years ago he started those conversations with me and I know it created a foundation for me to be aware of what is going on around me. I had an opportunity to connect with today’s sharer of light about five years ago.
I am excited to have you all here with our next sharer of light James DeMeo, former detective, former security supervisor for the leadership team opening the Barclays Center and author of “What’s Your Plan.”
Today, James shares with us insights about the importance of risk management, situational awareness, and resources to help us navigate crises and unprecedented times.
Happy Friendly Light Friday!
With love, light and wellbeing,
Sharing Light with James DeMeo
Each day brings new opportunities, allowing you to constantly live with love—be there for others—bring a little light into someone's day. Be grateful and live each day to the fullest.
Yes, you made it to this first ever Sharing Light Interview!
My goal for 2020 is to bring in friends and colleagues to share their light with you. I appreciate your interest and patience as I practice this new format. I am my own writer, website designer, production manager,... haha). There are definitely skills that I need to develop - I will continue to fail and learn from that failure - move forward - and share light!
I can't sit back and not share light with you.
I believe in the importance of sharing our authentic selves with one another by hearing stories of lived experiences while also gaining context for service, leadership, education and the sport and recreation industry.
I am excited to share light with all of you this week from a dear friend and colleague Rachael Finley. I have known Rachael over 15 years. She is currently the Director for Campus Recreation at York College of Pennsylvania.
Today, Rachael shares with us insights about the role of campus recreation, supporting staff, personal wellbeing and a couple of books that provide her inspiration.
Happy Friendly Light Friday!
With love, light and wellbeing,
Sharing Light with Rachael Finley
Links to Books Shared
Way of the Peaceful Warrior
The best way out is always through.
In a motivational write up by Travis Johnson titled, The Best Way Out Is Always Through, he shares the meaning of Frost’s quote, “to get some sort of healing for a situation, to get “out,” we must embrace and go through our ordeal wholeheartedly, with inquiry and desire for self-awareness.”
So how are we getting through these days? Well...
Asking, asking, asking “why?”
Walking, walking, walking the path
Staring, staring, staring at the wall
Crying, crying, crying in the night
Lifting, lifting, lifting the weight off our shoulders
Leaning, leaning, leaning on others
Dancing, dancing, dancing in the kitchen
Drinking, drinking, drinking another cup of coffee (or glass of wine)
Listening, listening, listening to sweet sounds
Meeting, meeting, meeting online
Reading, reading, reading critically
Learning, learning, learning daily
Distancing, distancing, distancing from friends
Surviving, surviving, surviving another day
Reflecting, reflecting, reflecting on self
Pondering, pondering, pondering purpose
Creating, creating, creating something new
Building, building, building stronger relationships.
Speaking, speaking, speaking truth
Being, being, being present today
We are...Traveling, traveling, traveling through
It’s not easy and there is no one solution when getting through. It’s difficult, delightful, heartbreaking, and eye opening.
Be well my friends, do what at the time feels right to get through.